FATHERS not fathers (Kids need Role Models)

“Kids need their father.”

You’ve probably heard this phrase before, or maybe even said it yourself. And if you look at it on the surface, it sounds noble. But it doesn't make sense when you look at it from a different angle.

The honest truth is:

Kids don’t just need fathers — they need engaged, loving, healthy, carefree, present, consistent role models, and loving example of what a father should be, one who show up emotionally, mentally, and physically. That can mean:

Unconditional love and support
Positive discipline and guidance
Active involvement in their lives
A safe, stable environment
Examples of respect, empathy, and responsibility
Encouragement to grow into their unique selves

Because a title without substance doesn’t nourish a soul.

A presence without care can still leave a child feeling abandoned.

And an unstable father often passes down wounds instead of wisdom.

We don’t talk about this enough. We don’t talk enough about the dads who are physically in the home but emotionally miles away. Or even the father who provide financially but never show affection. And the ones who never got the tools to be a father, because they never saw it modeled either.

Kids need more than the idea of a father—they need the embodiment of one.

Someone who shows up consistently.

Someone who listens.

Who apologizes.

Who is dedicated and supportive.

Who leads with love, not fear.

Who teaches.

Who encourages.

Who Prays

Who protects not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too.

Who demonstrates balance, responsibility, and self-control

It’s not just about being present—it’s about being there the whole time.

And if you didn’t have that growing up, you’re allowed to name that. You’re allowed to grieve it. You’re allowed to break that cycle.

Let’s not romanticize fatherhood by default. Let’s rebuild it with intention.

In al, Kids need someone who shows up, stays present, and truly cares. That could be a father, mother, grandparent, guardian, teacher, or mentor — what matters most is how they love and lead, not just who they are.

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