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The Ripple Effect of Heartbreak: Why you should think twice before breaking someone's heart

  Heartbreak is a debilitating and consuming emotional experience that can leave a person feeling shattered, lost, less of themselves and vulnerable. When a romantic relationship ends, especially if it was intense or long-term, the emotional impact can be severe and hard to come back from. Emotional turmoil and vulnerability are core factors that suffice after an intense breakup. So before breaking up with someone you should consider what your actions would cause on them, Don't just end things with people on bad terms: instead seek more appropriate ways that would cause less hurt and damage to them.  Heartbreak can cause a chain of reactions, so its essential to handle breakup with care: most persons are fragile and can't handle the aftermath of heartbreak, but your approach to ending things can make it hurt less. THE PAIN OF HEARTBREAK -  Heartbreak can trigger a deep sense of loss, intense grief, sadness and emotional numbness: causing insomnia, changes in appetite, fat...

Older you!

 The older you get the more accountability is demanded from, not just from people but from yourself too. Life is way much easier in high school or as a teenager, but it doesn't always stay that way. Once you've pasted that stage, their are lots of expectation from you, people expect a lot from you and you expect a lot from yourself too. Well it not the same for everybody, a lot of persons are forced to be adult even before they are ready. But we're not always ready, are we? Adulthood does not come with expectations alone, it comes with lessons, laughter, high demand, yes and no's, success, failures, pain, ambitions, dreams and many more. Not just that, with growth come a lot of increase in standards, and heights you want to attain for yourself, goals you want to achieve and reward you want to give yourself. How well you prepare yourself determine how far you would go. So in all you do time is of essence, "Any time lost cannot be saved" even the b...

Sis! you are all of that

I have learnt so far that in relationship or friendship or courtship, no matter how beautiful or smart or sexy or loving or caring or understanding you are, you would never be enough for him, if is not you he wants. So enduring poor treatment from this men. Sis, is not on you that your man is a bitch or a cheater or a liar, stop blaming yourself for the things this men do. if he loves you enough you wont tell him how to treat you. Men do know how to show love, if they love you they wont make you beg for their love. You are " all of that" and you deserve to be loved and treated the way you  want, so don't give into the mentally of the society and settle for less.

Everyone has vulnerability.

Everyone has vulnerability, no matter how big or small of a person you're. Some persons are just good at hiding their vulnerability, so you don't get to see pass the facade they put up. Some people are also harnessing their own vulnerability and making it the best part of them. Having vulnerability is not a bad thing, having vulnerability makes you human. You can't shy away from your vulnerability because they're what makes you special, they make you unique and distinguish you from others. Not everyone is comfortable with their vulnerability and tend to hide it cause not everybody understands those vulnerability. Yea, not everyone understands, but you can turn those vulnerability to be the best thing about you. Let me give you an instance;  There is this cast "Klaus" from "vampires diary's and The original". They're TV series that intertwines together. At first a lot of people hated Klaus Cause of his thoughtless and disastrous deeds but he l...

Staying Healthy

  Hapi Tuesday fellas Trust you have had your plans for the month of January all set out.  If No Why? If Yes, hope you included plans of staying healthy. You would ask if staying healthy is really important? Hell yes! staying healthy is really important because it doesn't just keep you fit, its keeps sickness and depression far from you. So in this month of January, I would be making sure we stay healthy because "Health is Wealth". And in observing a healthy lifestyle we should; 1. Eat good food and fruit 2. Make exercise your daily routine. 3. Make sure you get enough sleep. 4. Stay hydrated by drinking enough water . 5. Keep a smiling face always(it keeps wrinkles away) 6. Always keep a positive energy: Avoid negative energy cause they hinder your growth. 7. And the big one is keeping a healthy skin. You can't be healthy if your skin is not not healthy, so in maintaining a healthy skin we should; * Exfoliate - Invest in a good face and body scrub, and make sure u ex...

Letting Go

Letting go is one thing everybody finds difficult, no matter your position. And we fail to understand that life is about finding the balance between holding on and letting go.  We find ourselves in situations we don't like because we refuse to let go even when we know it the right thing to do. We find it difficult to let go in friendships and relationships, because we believe we've invested a lot of our emotions, time, and energy, and the more we invest, the harder it is to let go. I know how hard it is, but ask yourself is it doing you any good, the lying, disrespect, cheating, heartbreaks and all are they worth it. Often times we turn a blind eye to this issues with hope that they might change, or start to treat you better, but as time goes on the damage becomes more severe and you find yourself stuck at a crossroad not knowing whether to let go or not. You save yourself a lot of pain and mental troubles when you know when to let go, don't let the ...

People Treat You The Way You Treat Yourself

A wise person once said "You're a product of your imagination". So just imagine what you think of yourself, is that how you want people to see you? Are happy with the current level you've placed yourself in your imagination. There's no way you would think low of yourself and expect someone to think highly of you. Don't get me wrong I'm no saying you should lie or act like what you're not or fake lifestyle like some folks out there, that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is give yourself a benefit of doubt, don't let people walk all over you in the name of friendship or relationship. Some persons end up in ill relationship because they think it's the best they can get, they feel no one can love them as their current partner or friends do, most times they think it's the best thing that would ever happen to them so they end up being a punch bag for an angry partner or an emotional dump for a selfish friend. You need to learn t...