A wise person once said "You're a product of your imagination". So just imagine what you think of yourself, is that how you want people to see you? Are happy with the current level you've placed yourself in your imagination.
There's no way you would think low of yourself and expect someone to think highly of you. Don't get me wrong I'm no saying you should lie or act like what you're not or fake lifestyle like some folks out there, that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is give yourself a benefit of doubt, don't let people walk all over you in the name of friendship or relationship. Some persons end up in ill relationship because they think it's the best they can get, they feel no one can love them as their current partner or friends do, most times they think it's the best thing that would ever happen to them so they end up being a punch bag for an angry partner or an emotional dump for a selfish friend.
You need to learn to Build your confidence and self worth, I know its hard especially if you have some flaws physically or emotionally or psychologically. I would give you my experience; I broke my front tooth as a child, I think I was about age 9 or 10, it wasn't a problem at first cause I was a kid and some other kids that age were missing their front tooth, you know around that age is when some kid lose their milk tooth. But as I started getting older it started to be a problem because they would use it to pick on me in high school, so this changed everything about me, I used to be a very vibrant and active child wanting to participate in all school activities, quiz, game, spelling bees and all of that, but I started getting uncomfortable and stopped doing the things I loved doing, I stopped making friends, I stopped staying back even a minute after close of school, cause I didn't want my flaws to be mentioned, I got into alot of fight and cried alot cause of my tooth cause I felt it made me vulnerable and made me feel less of myself amongst my peer. This went on for a while, so even in the university I distance myself from a lot of things cause the last thing I wanted was for people to know me. But I have a bright personality, so people wanted to associate with me, as they say " you can't put on a candle and hide it". It took a long time for me to see past my flaws and accept it. I had to put in a lot of worde k and I can tell you I can't get offended if someone make reference to it as a joke or as beef. I won't lie it took time but I conquered it even though I'm planning on going for a dental surgery, I was able to overcome all of the feeling of inferior complex and was able to come out of the shell I hid myself cause I was feeling inferior to my peer. You have to put in the work if you are a person of low esteem and want to feel good about yourself. I started feeling myself again in no time and trust me no one was able to put me down any longer.
The point is there are steps to take to overcome inferiority complex and let go of that feeling of worthlessness. To achieve this you have to;
✓ Believe in yourself: You should be the cheerleader of your life. Have you gone for a game before, you see the cheerleader and fans are always cheering even if their team is losing. What I'm saying in essence is even if you're not doing as well as people your age, that's not enough reason to look down on yourself and let people treat you like trash. Cause they would treat you like a failure if you see yourself as a failure.
✓ Accept your flaws: You should learn to accept your flaws, your flaws makes you unique and makes you who you're cause if you don't people would use it to make you feel bad about yourself. Instead of hating yourself for your flaws, finds things you love about yourself or things you're good at and work on them trust me you would feel proud about yourself and love yourself when you excel at something. No matter what your flaws are, I mean no matter what it is, don't let people use it to make you feel bad about yourself, there is no best you then you. Like I told you about myself I had a great personality so I harnessed that and people began so see beyond a girl with broken teeth.
✓ Don't rely on people's opinion about yourself: Trust me this one is very important, don't let people opinion validate your own opinion about yourself. Most times they feel intimidated by you, so they try to kill your spirit with their wrong opinion. I know someone that said he doesn't like me for no reason he just didn't like me but along the line I found out from his friend that he didn't like me cause I act like I'm too smart or I know it all. Your partner or friend might be intimidated by your Aura and try as must as they can to outshine you buy killing your spirit. So don't let people be the judge of your life or let them be opinion makers concerning your matter.
There are lot more points to take down but above are basic points that shouldn't be overlooked. And in addition, be yourself, put yourself out there in a positive way, strive for self growth and improvement. Be obsessed about the things you love about yourself, Invest in your inner beauty as well as your outward beauty. Don't just be a "dumb dumb" and a cry baby, support yourself with positive people they make you feel better even when you' re not perfect, stand up for yourself and enjoy how well you turn out.
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